Never judge a book...

As NY is in the middle of a mini heat wave, I spent my day doing one of my favorite activities, hanging out at the pool!!  Ever since I could remember, I have loved the pool.  There is just no better way to spend a HOT day! 

One of the things I do at the pool is people watch.  I find it fascinating to see what people choose to wear to enjoy the water.  Far too often, I see people, mainly women, wearing bathing suits that are far from flattering.  Either the bathing suit shows too much skin, fits poorly or is just the wrong style for the body type.  I am SOOOOO guilty of judging these women and thinking that they really need to invest in a mirror.  I am often stuck between two opposing thoughts: hooray for that woman having enough confidence to wear what she wants and why would any woman want to look so bad in public. However, today it dawned on me that since I dont live with any of them, I dont know where they are in their life to make them want to come out in something I deem inappropriate.

As my sister, Brenda, once pointed out to someone else, you cannot tell by simply looking at someone for the first time, if that person who you see as struggling with weight, has actually come a long way in their weight loss; for you cant see where she started.  When I first heard Brenda's comment, I agreed wholeheartedly with the sentiment but never took it to heart until today.  As I watched woman after woman parade in these bathing suits, it clicked for me.   Maybe the reason for wearing a revealing bathing suit is to celebrate a big weight loss.  Maybe that same woman was once heavier and feels a little more confidence.  Or maybe that woman has gone through self esteem issues and has finally decided that she is beautiful the way she is!  These are things we cannot see just by looking at the person.

Just because I made this discovery is not to say I will stop judging.  I know its AWFUL but some of these suits are just YUCK!!  What I will try to do is not judge as much and just enjoy my time in the water!! =)  Stay cool!!

Thanks for reading and take care!!